Our conflict is in relationship, at all levels of our existence; and the understanding of this relationship, completely and extensively, is the only real problem that each one has. – Jiddu Krishnamurti
The value of working with or being open to Spiritual Guidance… in whatever form that comes… is that answers appear when you are most troubled and on the verge of giving up. And those answers come in the form that they will be received.
When I am sitting on the sidelines with my head in my hands, wondering why it is I insist on doing something that appears to have no logical direction or brilliant conclusion, the only thing keeping me going with that effort is my gut.
At my wits end, finally, asking a direct question, I am given an answer. Clear, steady, strong, this answer is very simple. I am enveloped in knowing. The question evaporates and I walk on. What matters is that gut feeling and inner knowing that I hear my source. When I am in sync with trust, all voices of dissent disappear. They are no longer needed to help me light my path.
Distraught, I asked, “How can I love someone who is unable to express or is more likely to miscommunicate their words??” The answer: You Learn.
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You said this so very well. When we are in sync with Source and accept that knowing and stop trying to analize it to death, than the clarity is provided.
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Thank you. Would have been nice to feel in sync 20 years sooner…rather than kicking and screaming my way there. ; ) Can’t hear or feel much when one is busy kicking and screaming…
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I have to smile. I worked so hard to find the meaning of the birds movements around me because their behavior was so strange. The last few days, I have simply smiled, said hello, and said, hey guys, I’ll catch up with you when I have some more room to be.
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There is something to be said for allowing the moment to unfold. It makes me smile just to hear how you relate and bring it in. Thank you for sharing. It sounds very affirming of you being you!
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Hi Wendy!
Uh…er..um…
As I have been reading and enjoying your writing, I keep running across reference to our ‘gut’ feelings.
Uh…er…um…
It’s these gut feelings I have learned not to Trust. For the very reason that they are from our gut. Not our Heart.
For me, if I’m feeling something from my gut level, that usually means whatever perspective of reality I happen to be entertaining in my mind, is false. There is a different feel, a different flavor, a different resonance between gut and heart to me.
Well do I know the kicking and screaming routine. That’s me all the way. I’m not stupid, just dense. lol
A question comes to mind to ask you, inspired by what you’ve written. Is a person ‘unable to express or more likely to miscomminicate their words’, Loving and Nurturing and Satisfying to you, emotionally?
What are you denying yourself in terms of attention and affection, based on perceiving the worthiness within another? Until they realize it, too, you might as well be whistling dixie. In the meantime, your self denial fuels the behaviour.
It’s often easier for us to love others, then it is for us to love ourselves. And sometimes we get caught up in our own games of denial, telling ourselves our self martydom expresses our Love.
When it doesn’t express much Love for ourselves to begin with. Not to mention that we can’t give what we don’t have.
Might there be another role in your Play of Consciousness that was more fun and fulfilling for you?
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Hey Sue Ann! Thank you for your questions and the Heart insight. Gut is a term – that many can relate to – heart is more subtle. Both require tuning in and when I am asked to deal with teaching those who are first learning this stuff – I get better results when I use the term gut – many have conflict with heart – assuming it is a romantic issue. They need to go through more fine tuning to navigate the different areas and issues. I don’t view it as such. So, it is a matter of – we each do what we can and then try to explain how best it works for us – how it feels etc., as you are doing in sharing with me. Others see it and say hey — and they choose what resonates for them.
When I have a sense of not doing a certain thing and it is right on…my gut/stomach area becomes tight…that affects my entire body. I become rigid, solid. It has nothing to do with fear. It is my way of knowing that I am to stand still and wait. That is my gut. Whether my heart spoke first, I cannot say. But my gut sense has saved my life. So – in my case – it makes sense for me to say I work with my gut.
I also work with my heart. In terms of loving. All relationships – in my experience – mirror different aspects of self/soul. Those that challenge us – offer insight on issues we are working through – and as we become less attached to that role or identity and projection of self, the role shifts and changes…as does the person in front of us… whomever it is, spouse, co-worker, neighbor, stranger. When we are consciously aware of what we are doing and how we are creating our reality, the gentle shifts of gut and heart, in turn, shift all external appearances.
Depending upon our level of presence in this awareness, we can shift some things very quickly. I do not rid myself of those who challenge me to shift my thought and my create – ability. I do work in a smaller circle at that time so I can better see what I am putting out and how it is coming back to me — much easier that way to work out my kinks.
This is a very simple version of explanation because it doesn’t happen without awareness, intent, effort, and focus. And it is not will power…it is letting go of will and ego to appreciate what I am blocking and then that which blocks me dissolves. So – when I have someone who comes to challenge me – I am less likely to judge them for their differences and learn why I insist on a familiar or mirrored image rather than allowing differences to reveal the beauty in diversity. The person may not even know I have a struggle to release – I just work it through and say, “Aho. Thank you for showing me a new leaf!”
Shadow and Light are beautiful. I look for a compliment – rather than a twin…and that allows me to work on refinement of self on a broad scale…not just in this moment…and in so doing I can appreciate perspectives I would not have arrived at on my own. I explore…and that is – for me – wonderful! Once I “got” the results – I stopped kicking and screaming. : ) But that is my way…It is how I have learned to “be” and to “flow” with spirit. It is up to each to see and to learn what works best for them – if and when they so desire. I can explain it – but I cannot include everything I do – some of it happens in doing. Some things cannot be taught …they have to fall into being. And here we are …. ; ) knowing nothing — and yet, we still get results!!
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Thank you for clarifying. I see it is simply a matter of semantics, which is what I suspected.
A friend of mine used to teach egyptian ‘magic’. I asked her one time why she called it ‘magic’, for I knew she knew better. The answer she gave was much the same as yours. The journey from helpless to empowered is made up of small steps.
Just like the way we learn vocuabulary, one level of words at a time, building a foundation we can expand on.
I understand what you’re talking about now when you say ‘gut’. It’s a STOP sign. For first we govern our knee jerk reactions, so that we can then respond, instead of react.
Have I understood you correctly?
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Yes! And you have provided an excellent explanation of the process. We start where we are – with what we can feel/sense first and then refine that to get to the next level… to infinity. ; ) …whatever that means. Language is a limited form of communication. Imagine that?
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Jiddu Krishnamurti ;
“There are three monks, who had been sitting in deep meditation for many years amidst the Himalayan snow peaks, never speaking a word, in utter silence. One morning, one of the three suddenly speaks up and says, ‘What a lovely morning this is.’ And he falls silent again. Five years of silence pass, when all at once the second monk speaks up and says, ‘But we could do with some rain.’ There is silence among them for another five years, when suddenly the third monk says, ‘Why can’t you two stop chattering?”
http://www.katinkahesselink.net/kr/jokes.html
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